Today I’m going to share with you something that is simple to use that can immediately increase the quality of your life. Sound’s unbelievable right? Well, believe it! This simple process is called Transformational Vocabulary.
What is Transformational Vocabulary?
Transformational Vocabulary is the belief that the words we attach to our experience literally become what we experience. Therefore if we believe this is true, then it’s fair to say that if we change the vocabulary, we habitually use, we can transform our experience and change the way we think, feel, and how we live.
How does it Work?
Words, they can create emotions, and they can create action. Most of our beliefs are formed by words, and they can be changed by words as well. The problem is that most of us are making unconscious decisions about the words we choose to use and because of that, most of us are not experiencing life the way we would like too.
By simply changing the words we use to describe how we feel we can instantly change the emotions we experience as well. The reason for this is that our five senses (visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, and gustatory) are sending a series of messages to our brains, and our brain has to organize them into categories for us to interpret them. The easiest way to do this is for the mind to create labels, which are what we call words.
Because this process happens so quickly, we tend to create shortcut words such as I’m happy, sad, angry, etc. to make this process easier, but this is actually a massive problem for most us. The reason for this is that the labels we choose to use to describe our experience, literally become our experience and that is why we can all have the same event happen to us, but all have entirely different experiences because of the way we describe our experience to ourselves with our own choice of words.
Vocabulary & You
According to the Oxford dictionary, there are over 170,000 words in the English language, but only 3,000 words account for 95% of common texts and books! That means we only use around 1-2% of the English language!! Also In Tony Robbin's book “Awaken the Giant Within” he talks about how he discovered that there are twice as many words to describe negative emotions, as there are positive ones. This to me, confirms that being a positive person in society is not the norm.
One of the reasons why people tend to experience the same emotion and experience over and over again is because we continuously use the same words to describe our experiences. If we can become more creative with the words we choose to use to describe how we feel, we can literally create new experiences for ourselves and change our emotional reality.
So if we want to change our lives, we need to become conscious of the words we use, and select words that empower and amplify our experiences.
How to use Transformational Vocabulary?
Modeling is something that you implement in your life to help propel you to success faster. It’s basically where you take the same steps and adopt the same behaviors of someone you admire so that you can achieve the same type of success that they have. Therefore it makes sense to say that if you can adopt the same vocabulary that they use, that it will help bring the same success to you more quickly and easily. And while adopting their vocabulary is good, adopting their volume, intensity, and tonality is fantastic.
Removing words from your Vocabulary
If a word is not in your vocabulary, then you don’t experience the feeling associated with it. So if there are words that you are using that create states that are not empowering, get rid of those words and replace them with new ones that do.
Modifiers can be used to help soften the emotional intensity of a word. This is especially useful when in conjunction with negative emotions. Using modifiers such as “a bit,” “a tad,” or “a smidge” can completely change the amount of energy and power a word holds. Say out loud “I’m frustrated,” pause, and then say “I’m a tad frustrated.” Right away you should notice a difference in the way the second option feels.
Lastly, it’s time for the bread and butter of transformational vocabulary. Replace old words with new words that either soften the emotional intensity of a word (negative emotions) or amplify the energy a word contain (positive emotions).
Instead of “I’m depressed,” say “I’m a little bit out of it.”
Instead of “I’m furious!” say “I’m feeling a tad bit peeved.”
Instead of “I’m good” say “I’m spectacular.”
Instead of “It was fun” say “It was outstanding.”
When you switch the words that you use, the change is not only emotionally but physically as well. Words have the power to change our biochemical states. The words you could be using could be causing you to feel more lethargic, more lazy, or sicker than you need to be.
To get the most out of this reading, take a sheet of paper out and write down five negative feelings you would like to feel less and think about how you usually describe those feelings. After identifying and writing those words down, replace them with ones that soften and lower the emotional intensity of that word and mindfully practice using your new word instead for the next week.
Repeat the same process, but with positive feelings that you’d like to feel more and find words that ignite your passion and intensify your joyous feelings!
I hope you enjoyed this educational read. If you would like to learn more about transformational vocabulary, you can buy Tony Robbins book “Awaken the Giant Within” or you can sign up for some FREE 1-on-1 coaching sessions and find out how a Life-Coach can help you create long-lasting change in your life!
- Coach K