Life Advice

Quarter Life Crisis

Are you young, lost and feeling panicked? Have you all of a sudden started questioning who you are and where you are in your life? If so, you might be going through a quarter-life crisis. Never heard of it before? Well, it's very similar to a mid-life crisis, except it's brought on at a younger age and for entirely different reasons. In this article, you will find some clarity on what a quarter-life crisis is, what types of people experience it and the good and the bad that comes along with it. 


What is the Quarter Life Crisis?

A quarter-life crisis is a period of time in-between a person’s mid-twenties to early thirties where an experience of a trigger event causes a person to question who they are and what they are doing with their life.
— Kaivon Hayat

Who experiences it?

Anyone who is in their mid-twenties to early thirties can become a victim of the quarter-life crisis. The quarter-life crisis does not discriminate. It can affect you whether your single or married, financially secure or hopelessly broke, and it doesn't care whether you dropped out of high school or earned a masters degree at a prestigious college.




When does it happen?

A quarter-life crisis is experienced when a person goes through what I call a trigger event. A trigger event is any event that causes a person to experience a quarter-life crisis. This definition may seem a little broad and over-generalized, but that's because the trigger event can be something as mundane as a 2-minute conversation to something monumentally life-changing like finding out you're going to become a mother or a father. Below I will give some examples of different types of trigger events, which I'm sure many of you can relate to.


Examples of a Trigger Event:

#1. The College Graduate
You've just graduated from college with a degree and realized that you have no idea what to do next. Your whole life up to this point was about school. First, it was middle school, then high school, and finally, college, and once that was completed you felt lost and started to feel depressed about the future. You ask yourself if you made the right choice by going to school, you start to get depressed about feeling aimless, and you begin to wonder if there's more to life than just school and getting a 9 to 5 job.

#2. The Divorce/Breakup
You had been dating your partner for quite a long time now. Everything in your life was about maintaining and growing in this relationship, and now suddenly it's all over. You're all alone, and you realize that you don't even know who you truly are. Your sense of identity was tied to your partners, and now that he or she is gone, you start to wonder who you were before this relationship began. You feel lost, lonely, and are angry and sad because it feels like you have to start all over again. 

#3. The Passionless Success
You graduated from college got a well-paying job, and as far as other people are concerned, you're doing great in life. Your bills are paid, you have a nice place and have more than enough to be able to buy some of those luxury items you've always wanted, but somethings are missing. You don't feel excited or passionate. You start to question your career choice and feel as if you're missing out on life. A big promotion seems to be in your future, but you realize that this career isn't cutting it for you. You want something more; you want to feel a passion and a connection to your true purpose in life.

#4. The Simple Conversation
It's just another ordinary day, and as you walked into your local coffee shop to get a coffee, you run into an old friend (or colleague) that you haven't seen in a while. You two start talking, and you find out that your friend has recently gotten married and works at a start-up company that's working on saving the environment. Then that friend starts to ask you about your job, your relationship, and what you've been up to and you realize that you don't have much of a story to tell. After the conversation is over, you feel terrible and feel like you're falling behind and that everyone else already has their life and act together. You start questioning yourself, your decisions, and start to wonder where it all went wrong. 




Why the Quarter Life Crisis is a Good Thing

Although going through a Quarter Life Crisis would never be described as a joyful and fun experience, I promise you that it is indeed a good thing. It's better to experience this type of crisis now rather than later when there will be less time and energy to make a significant change in the trajectory of your life. A Quarter Life Crisis forces you to start becoming curious. Questioning yourself is actually a good thing because with intelligent questions you get intelligent answers. Realizing that you haven't found your passion is one thing, but when you start to care enough to start exploring what that passion truly is, it means that you're just about ready to start playing full out, that you're finally ready to go all in. 



Are you going through a Quarter Life Crisis?

If you think that you're going through a Quarter Life Crisis, then it's time to take action. It's time to start to think about what would have to change so that you could feel more secure, joyful, and passionate about your present and your future. If you don't change, nothing else will. Success isn't something that happens to you. Success is something that you become.

I am a Life & Wellness Coach and If you feel like it would help you to talk to someone who could help you clarify your vision, reignite your passion and help you create a step-by-step plan tailored to your needs, contact me for a FREE 1-on-1 coaching session to see how Life Coaching can dramatically change your life.

-Coach K